The cowards feel comfortable behind the excuses

THE COWARDS FEEL COMFORTABLE BEHIND THE EXCUSES ... at least that's how I see it. Knowing that you have a responsibility but you can evade the same, in the same way, that criminals look for the alibi to avoid being caught or receive punishment, in the case of cowards is to have an exit pass to justify the absence or abandonment, but with the added incentive "there was a reason", so to forgive the lack, it is almost an obligation.

How much can a person's life be ruled by fear? To what extent can live behind excuses be tolerated without facing reality? The one who hides behind the excuses, is the only one affected by them?

Fear, it is a four letter word but its impact on the life of an individual can trigger a series of events beyond what is desired and turn into reality the most hidden nightmares. A long time ago, there lived a man named Job. He had it all, Wife, children, daughters, cattle, farm, servants, land, the appreciation, and admiration of his neighbors. One day the worst happened ..., he lost everything. The children died, the cattle were stolen, the servants killed, the land burned, his reputation as a good man of God disappeared, as well as his health and the only thing he could keep was his wife, who in the most direct way told him: just die...

Nobody wants to be in his position. However, he has taught us through his history what it means to be wholehearted, patient, suffer and then be rewarded and live enough to enjoy it; but what none or very few have taught us about the extraordinary suffering of this man is what he himself confessed in one of the primary passages of his history and agony:

"Because of the fear that frightened me has come to me. And what I feared has happened to me." (Job 3:25)

The story of this man tells that after living this ordeal, he lived a hundred and forty years more, so he enjoyed the breadth of everything he recovered. It also says that he died full of days, and surely, happy. But what is not yet known was how many years he lived before living his nightmare, dreaming that it would happen to him.

The expression "Be careful what you wish, it may be that you are fulfilled" or "dreams come true" has a lot of reason and foundation in the truth. What is the fear anyway? But a feeling, an emotion born of something that fights against logic and reason.

In medicine, they explain that fear originates in the amygdala and to some extent its presence is necessary, as long as it can help to demarcate the line between the prudent and the dangerous. But what happens when fear of passing the barriers of prevention makes the person a magnet for misfortune?

Often what is loved and what is feared is registered by the same intensity. A mother loves her son as much as she fears losing it. A father protects his own to the same extent that he fears they get hurt. A husband or wife can feel jealousy for his/her partner as much as he/she can love them. However, what determines the relationship? Love or fear?

Definitely, to what is given more importance and value. Security or affection? Protection or company? Build a strong-armed or a warm home?

Often people who live on the defensive and waiting to receive an attack, a bad word, bad news, suffering from an illness or simply "have bad luck", base their whole life on avoiding any of these experiences, However, a kind of electric shock travels through their senses and upsets them like chickens laying eggs when they discover that despite all their efforts, "the evil they feared, overtook them".

They almost celebrate being through that terrible moment, because (and against all logic), somehow "they were right". They were born to suffer, to be harassed, mistreated, offended, abandoned and forgotten. The rest of humanity should feel sorry for them, and buy whatever the justification they have to continue being "the bad luck people."

In these circumstances, leaving the state of misfortune becomes confusing, almost impossible, because although things at that point are already wrong, certainly can worsen and here goes the additional ingredient: We start looking for guilty.

  • First, we blame the relatives and friends because they are the ones closest to us and show us their affection in the face of adversity;
  • Second, we blame the economy and the white-collar thieves, because they did get everything and not thanks to their good deeds, not like us who act well and go all badly ;
  • Third, we blame the government or any official institution on duty that better reflects our situation;
  • Fourth, we blame the nation or country where we live because we had the misfortune of being born there (sure we would have been luckier elsewhere);
  • Fifth, we blame our parents for bad genetics or lack of understanding between them as adults when they were raising us,
  • And finally, when we have run out of visible targets to blame, then we blame God (we believe in Him or not) because he simply does not love us enough or as some would dare to point out, "he has a strange way of showing his affection for us". A way that to say it, somehow, could even kill us.

However, what happens when after blaming everyone we realize that the only culprits of our situation are we ourselves?

It takes time to assimilate this news, especially, because we do not want to admit our participation in the unfortunate events that we have had to live or that we continue to live. But, the truth is this, there is a destiny for every action we take. That decision will be inspired by emotion or feeling, hence the question, what is the feeling that predominates in our way of living? Will it be love or will it be fear? sure there are others, but none are as much destructive power as fear; the only one that without lifting a finger, can paralyze a person for a second, a minute, an hour or ... all their life.

Job was a good man. The Bible describes him as "God-fearing and turning away from evil. " He cared for the well-being of his family and helped those who needed it. Why, then, would all these terrible things happen to him at once and without warning? It is not of good or bad men, the actions that make them noble or vile. A person can distribute a lot of money for orphans and homeless, but still, corrupt the soul and body of others with lethal vices. Good or evil happens to everyone equally no matter what.

Emotions, on the other hand, are voluntary or unfounded. Each person is free to feel and act as they please. Therefore, to fear or love is more a matter of dedication, of the investment of energy. Job loved his family, but he was terribly afraid of losing them. Job enjoyed his farm and his lands, but he was much more afraid of losing them. Job appreciated his employees but he was more afraid of losing them. Job loved his wife, but the fear of her indifference and abandonment was greater.

Was Job preparing for what would come next? Did he have the divine revelation that evil would happen to him? Was his fear the trigger for all that catastrophe? At this point in the story, coincidences are NOT an option. What are the odds and the real possibilities of Job to live what he feared, and lose what he precisely, he was terrified to lose?